Dangerous toothpaste 😉

Well, she is ASD & has the label PDD-NOS. She sure tries me at times. I can't tell if it's "autism" or teen years. I mean wow it's like looking back in time at moments. Her words and actions were at one time mine.
So we have small battles almost always. It's very frustrating. Wait till you hear tonight's...
So bed time is upon us and I tell the teens to brush there teeth before bed. The boys do it no problem, She flat out tells me NO!! WTF?? I mean I would never have told my parents no as a teenager and live to tell about it. The boys are like frozen, they have no idea what to expect or do. They hurry to finish and take off to their room. (across from the bathroom). I tell her again to brush and she is having none of it. This has been an ongoing battle for weeks now. She used to brush too much, now I don't remember how that was possible. So I tell her again and she is so dead set against it she stands there, in the bathroom, tears running down her face... Omg really!? It's not that big of a deal!! (or is it)*as my youngest would say. So the boys come back because they know this can only end badly. I have already told her the Wii is going to be taken out of her room. Her comment when the boys remind her what I just said, " the remote is dead anyway." oh sweet Lord, was I really like this?. So what comes next TV!! All the electronic gadgets she has collected will be confiscated NOW! She cares and is upset, but still not enough I guess. So I tell her I'm getting the belt. Rofl I haven't spanked my kids since they were 10. I hated it then and I sure as hell was hoping she would remember how it was so I didn't have to remind her. I mean I said it, I would have to follow through. Nice going Mel. Ugh. Well, it took her moving at a snails pace to get in the bathroom and brush, but she was in there. My boys were talking to me when I tell them I need to check on her. The boys are awful and suggest she is just running her brush under the water. Wow glad I didn't have brothers. I walk in there and she is brushing and then I know to ask if she used toothpaste? Dumb question you say... Not if you know my daughter! She has another fit and isn't wanting to use it. I get her a cup to help her rinse because I notice she hates having the taste in her mouth after. Well she brushes, finishes and asks me if she is going to be okay because she swallowed a little.
Do you hear it?? IT'S MY LIGHTBULB TURNING ON!!! My daughter, who has read the label, has noticed it says contact medical if it is swallowed:( I'm not kidding - it was that simple. I talk to her ask her, "do you think I would give you something that would hurt you?" She answers, "no". So I ask is that why you haven't been wanting to brush - her answer YES!! I tell her if she would have just told me I could have explained the la el warning a bit better to her. Her anxiety dissipates. My poor sweet girl. She apologizes for not telling me her fear and I tell her it would just make it easier for her and I - if we communicated better. I won't know how to help if you don't tell me:7
I call the boys in the room and explain her thought process to them. They are dumbfounded. They also try making her laugh since she was so upset.
Lord, I have the best kids!!
All in all I succeeded in getting her to brush and at the same time got her to understand she has to explain things to me sometimes just like I do with her and her brothers.
This whole process took 20 minutes, which I swear felt like an eternity.