common sense

Okay as a mom with two autistic children, high functioning which is well a way to chop up Autism in several different layers of layers. Any hoo, I am blessed that I am like most parents and relish in the little things, but even I have my limits. lol I laugh because I see why God has led my daughter specifically to me. She is my own reminder of enjoying every moment and to not assume everyone always GETS IT. I tend to always say how stupid people annoy me. Who am I to think that everyone gets something simply because I do (on that particular thing)?. My daughter has finally grasped the idea that if I tell her or ask her a question not to simply repeat the exact same thing because she doesn't know the answer or understand. It is simpler just tell me I don't understand what you are asking or saying. Something so simple reminding me that she doesn't get it. She can't help it. I have always known to rephrase things just so - so she would understand or get the look that lets me know she isn't getting a word I am saying. But then what about other folks that don't know her like I do or get her look of worry. So in a quest to help her father grasp that just because he thinks she should understand she doesn't. All she has to say is "I don't understand what you are asking me." Now tell her chores to do or anything else she gets it hey that's great, but we forget there are just some things that are day to day that she isn't gonna quite understand. I live with Amelia Bedelia she takes things literally and we have gotten her up to "speed" on a lot of things which now she finds amusing. We have moments still, but aren't we all "Still Learning".
PATIENCE is so rewarding. I was helping my parents with their yard work, my dad is going blind due to macular degeneration, so I was on the riding lawn mower. I was doing my thing, while my daughter was swinging (the child could swing from dawn to dusk if I let her) anyway I came to a spot where the dog had pulled her running lead and was blocking me from going straight. So here I am on the lawn mower trying to inch up & see if I can move the rope slowly to get myself (and mower) underneath. When what is this??? My daughter runs up and smiles at me and lifts up the rope so I could go under. I was flabbergasted. I didn't have to ask her or explain to her what needed to happen here. She just saw me from her swing and came over to help me. These are the moments I live for. When love, understanding and a parent willing to still learn and be patient can have such rewards. To some this may seem small, but to me it was a yell from a mountain top. I hope that all parents learn to revel in the little things and please don't take anything for granted. (and to me don't assume people are just going to get it) Common sense can be overrated!! Who said it was common anyway?!